A most empowering insight is understanding that how we think about a thing can create or shape how that thing affects us.   Limiting beliefs can start from a single thought or experience and grow into a personal reality as we tell ourselves something over and over again.

“I was never good at math.”  “I just don’t have a green thumb.” “I have two left feet.” “I could never do——–.”   “I’m too old to change.”  “I just don’t have it in me.” “There isn’t time for me to——.”  “I can’t get along with——.”  “No one understands me.”  “I’ll never find a loving relationship.”  “I can’t ever do enough.”  “There never is enough.”    “It’s too late.”  “I’ll never get over this.”

Henry Thoreau wrote:  “As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.  To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again.  To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

A function of therapy is uncovering thoughts that have become deeply rooted and do not serve us well.  Therapy is about finding new ways of seeing something that has caused pain or limitation and being open to finding a better way to talk with ourselves about it.